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Is this abnormal for a 14 yr old boy?

My hubby has 3 kids, a set of twins (17 yrs old) and a 14 yr old son. He has been divorced from their mother for about 7 yrs. He calls the kids every night and we get them every weekend from Friday to Sunday. In Jan 2010 I will be in the picture for 3 yrs. Before I came along the youngest son was sleeping with daddy. When my hubby moved in with me he remolded the basement for the boys. The youngest will not sleep down there, he sleeps on the sofa every weekend. Now if daddy sleeps down there, he will sleep down there.

My hubby revolves the entire weekend around this child. He is permitted to sleep on the sofa, keep his belongings in the dining room, sits in front of the living room tv and controls the remote. He will sit and play video games for hours upon hours on this tv. He will not go outside unless daddy is out there. He will not help his daddy such as cut grass or stack fire wood. He has bikes and motor bikes but wont ride them unless daddy is outside to watch him. If my hubby isn’t sitting beside of him on the sofa then the child will sit on whatever end of the sofa that my hubby is near and they will stroke each other hands. One morning I awoke to find my hubby sitting on the chair beside the sofa stroking this child’s head as he slept. As soon as my hubby hears that this child is awake, he flies out of bed and fixes his breakfast. He fixes his plate for every meal including even a sandwhich. Several times my hubby has slept in the living room with this child claiming it is either too hot or too cold in our bedroom. He will take this boy hunting or fishing every weekend or do something with him. Whenever we go out to eat he allows this child to decide where we are going. This boy whines and talks like a baby constantly and his older brother and sister are always asking him why he acts this way here and not at there moms. They tell him to stop whining and to grow up. One time his older brother was watching a movie that showed women’s breast and this boy said “this movie has boobies in it”. He never talks about girls and if there are kids at the house with his brother, he still hangs out with daddy. When we have friends over he is sitting right there with the adults. As for my hubby’s other two kids, he pays no attention to his daughter. His son is at the age where he hangs put with his friends. So actually they are hardly around. The 17 yr old never acted like this and he was 14 when I met him. He was very mature.

I noticed when this child’s mom is around he doesn’t act like this.

My hubby totally ignores me on the weekend. Everything is for this child. My hubby and I were spending some time which is very little together by building wooden objects. He said this would be “our thing”, last weekend he told this child that it would be their wood shop and even made him his own work area. I am not only pissed but hurt. This child controls everything!